Could anyone become a victim of fear of flying? I would say yes. Self-assurance and looking-at-myself-as-a-hero are just mental constructions, imaginations. I have met several very normal-functioning people, who have suddenly noticed the unpredicted feeling of anxiety when they have entered the aircraft. The thoughts all of a sudden changing – from the quite relaxed level to the completely new one, the worried one. Fear spreading inside of the body, making the heartbeat increase and the sweat being visible in the forehead. Brain trying to figure out what is going on. Brain telling you that this flight will perhaps become the very last one in your life. Starting to check all around you: any suspicious passengers around? Is the cabin crew fit and do they look calm and friendly? Sitting down, fastening the belt. Fastened. Can not move. Fixed in a helpless position. Fear increasing to anxiety level. What to do? Starting to yell? Asking for something to calm you down? Please – a big whisky, please. And hurry, please. For the first time in your grown-up life you are tasting anxiety.
I have met several people, who have no experiences or memories at all of anxiety. So far they have not been able to spell the word anxiety. It has been a completely unfamiliar concept. No, have never felt such things. Do not know anything about that. And yet – suddenly. With a lot of power it hits you. Somewhere in between the heart and the stomach. I have met those people, and many, many years ago I met myself in this horrifying, remarkable position. Underneath I was someone else – also. At the surface I was one, and underneath I was another one. It took some time until I found out that both these persons were in fact one only.
Nowadays I try to assist and to help people that suffer from fear of flying. Or better: they suffer from general, quite normal anxiety symtoms. They are telling yourself a story - your life history, both the previous one and the present one. The easy parts and the not at all easy parts. The ones that you so far preferred to think of – and the ones you did not want to listen to.


